Imagine someone coming up to you and saying:
“Oh, you get stressed easily? That can actually help you, you know.”
Whether it’s someone you met or even a close friend, you’d feel like pushing them away when they say that. After reading this blog, you may change your mind about that.
In order to tackle your weaknesses and disturbances such as anxiety, stress and depression - begin to think of it as something that exists to help you. Imply a bit of reverse psychology and tell yourself that these problems exist to provide you with something better. This might seem like a controversial take to these serious issues but it finds its roots in a classic old saying "All things happen for a reason". And they definitely do. Carefully listening to the language of your issues and analyzing them is the first step towards finding a solution.
Words have a tendency to incite, motivate and soothe, but can also be destructive. That manifests as fear that evolves into lingering issues like stress and anxiety. Words can lead to hope and motivation or to fear and despair. Words become tied to symbols and take on the powerful meaning of those symbols.
So change how you react to fear, and start to listen to it instead. When you feel frightened or seriously anxious, your mind and body work very quickly. Replacing the language with a more positive one will have lingering effects. The impact of words has power, which can energize, inspire, or torment.
To use the present tense means that we must create a picture of the changed behaviour occurring now. When you fail to use the present tense, even your best expectations simply become intentions that will never materialize.
Always state the desired result as an accomplished fact.
Say a friend of yours keeps getting stressed out because they procrastinate their work and grow anxious as the work piles up. Dwelling on the same issue will only make her feel more stressed saying, “I have so much work to do, I don’t think I can finish it. Oh no!”
Instead, if she started saying “Since procrastination keeps stressing me out, I will complete my work on time and learn to organise my time and work a little better.” This shows how the subconscious mind is an existential mind and is always “in the moment.”
Finding a way around the problem instead of dealing with it in the present will make you miss out on a lot of the fun things in life. It's true that you can remember the past, and that you can imagine the future. But, it is only in the present moment that you can experience your response to the memory of the past or to the imagining of the future. We always have to deal with our emotional response in the present moment.
If you keep avoiding social situations out of fear that your anxiety will act out, you will miss out on happy memories with the people you love. So, if you don’t want to miss out on a family picnic or an outing with your friends because social interaction freaks you out - learn to overcome the reason why that makes you uncomfortable.
We have a powerful tendency to talk about what we want to get rid of which only reinforces the problem. Only when we take the step by changing the way we talk and behave, then the change and personal growth will follow.
Focusing on the right words of power can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy, and you will reach the place you want to be by the sheer force of will. Words have power and energy in that they produce ideas in the mind of the listener. The acceptance of these ideas is one of the chief components of RTT, where we strengthen your inner voice, becoming the central focus of our work for ridding your fears by listening to them.